NORTH STAR

“You know our life – the outside of it – as the others do
and the inside of it – which they do not. You have seen our whole voyage.”

Mark Twain, twice bereaved parent of  Susy, 24-years old, and Jean, 29-years old.

 

North Star Parents are here to let you know you are not alone. We, too, share the profound loss of a child. We also have experienced marital woes, financial hardships and health setbacks and are working to make sense of a horrific tragedy that touches the lives of too many.

North Star Parents facilitate one-to-one connections among parents who have experienced the death of a child. Please find a list of biographies that parents have written below. You may find solidarity just reading them, or you may want to talk with a parent.

If you decide you want to contact one of the parents, please answer a few questions here, and we will connect you. Evermore keeps a record of your information, but does not share your story with any external medium (unless permission is specifically sought and granted). We do not micromanage relationships. We expect that relationships are respectful and supportive.

In order to participate, you will be prompted to agree to our terms and conditions.

There is no cost to participate.

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Alicia

Alicia

Kirsten had just turned 26, had graduated magna cum laude from Northwestern University, received an award of distinction for her thesis, and lived and worked in downtown Chicago. What could be wrong? Kirsten died because of bipolar disorder and mania that turned into deep depression, which ultimately led to suicide. She is missed every day.

Angelyn

Angelyn

Angelyn and her husband lost their son, a twin, during pregnancy. She remains both haunted and encouraged by his continuous presence in her daily life. Angelyn and her husband are committed to ensuring others who have experienced this phantom loss know they are not alone.

Burnett

Burnett

Burnett lost three sons within six months – their lives taken tragically in unrelated incidents. “As each year goes by, it becomes harder to visit their graves,” she says, remembering the distinct personality of each of the lives she lost: Randolph the artist, Linton the lawyer, and Reginald the comedian. Upon learning they each had separately volunteered to be organ donors, Burnett became a volunteer for Donate Life Maryland, a nonprofit that encourages individuals to sign up to do the same. “I know they will live on by giving others a chance at life,” says Burnett.

Christina

Christina

Christina found herself blessed with a miracle pregnancy despite a long battle with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. Sadly, that baby was not born – nor were the next five lives she carried. Christina channeled her energy following the losses of Kinsey, Alba, Sloane, Ray, Frankie and Mal into Soul Cyster Creations, which creates handcrafted memorial keepsakes and infertility encouragement pieces for families. Christina strives to honor the memory of the children she lost by helping others realize they are not alone, and she is committed to helping end the stigma surrounding miscarriage.

Deana

Deana

Deana lost her two children, Amanda and Logan, in a car accident that changed the trajectory of her life. Following her loss, Deana made it her life’s mission to help other bereaved parents through the pain she, herself, endured. A Certified Grief Recovery specialist, Deana helped launch Cry For Me, No More, a nonprofit organization that aims to help families cope with the death of a child. “I have learned that my heart will never be whole again,” says Deana, “but I will thrive in life once more by knowing I will share their legacy with others to help them heal their wounds.”

Gale

Gale

Gale is the mother of Angel Stacey Lynne Seaton, who will always be 18 days away from her 18th birthday. Stacey was murdered in Bowie, MD, in a case of mistaken identity. Since the death of her daughter, Gale has advocated for the rights of victims through the legislative process, educated criminal justice classes on the importance of conducting professional investigations, assisted survivors of homicide victims with emotional support and court accompaniment, and worked to improve processes for survivors. Stacey’s legacy lives on through these efforts and the memories of all whose lives she touched.

Jackie

Jackie

Jackie has faced the devastation of losing a child three times – twice as a mother and more recently as a grandmother. While nothing can diminish the pain of losing two children – one late in pregnancy and one at five months of age – Jackie draws comfort from a strong faith in God. She is grateful she has been able to use her experience to counsel her bereaved daughter and provide hope to others who continue to struggle.

Jennie

Jennie

Jennie is the mother of Alexandra, who bravely fought brain cancer for 13 months before dying on April 6, 2012, just seven weeks before her 5th birthday. Alexandra was survived by her loving older brother, Samuel. Along with a commitment to her Catholic faith, Jennie finds great comfort in volunteering at the hospital where Alexandra received her treatments and advocating on the Hill for an increased investment in pediatric cancer research. She also continues to work professionally as a cancer researcher.

Kelly

Kelly

Kelly made a promise to his children Katie and Noah that once he was strong enough, he would reach out to other bereaved fathers and help them find their way back from the brink. He has done this, and more, through his book, Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back, a collection of candid stories from fathers who have survived the tragic loss of a child. “I know Katie and Noah would want me to make a positive impact on others’ lives,” says Kelly. “The idea of helping others helps me.”

Laurie

Laurie

Brynn Elizabeth left behind her parents and twin sister at just 22 weeks of age. Laurie had just begun to feel the flutter of life when Brynn’s heart stopped beating. Laurie and her husband have been forever changed as parents – and people. “No child is too small or too young to have an impact on their family,” says Laurie, who encourages bereaved parents not to rush the grieving process but instead take each day as it comes.

Marion

Marion

The senseless killing of Marion’s 19-year-old son Gary by a police officer led her to become an activist in the movement for justice, police accountability and transparency. Marion, who was instrumental in organizing the Million Moms March, has taken her advocacy to the highest levels of government, meeting with White House and Department of Justice officials to discuss the need for reforms. She has turned her pain into passion and power, becoming a catalyst for change as the president and co-founder of Coalition of Concerned Mothers, which aims to stop police brutality, senseless community violence and mass incarceration while identifying and supporting policy and legislative change.

Maryam

Maryam

Maryam was in prison when her son, Augustine, was killed two weeks before his 30th birthday. During her incarceration, she experienced discrimination for her Muslim faith and watched fellow inmates, whom she refers to as SisterHearts, struggle to rebuild their lives inside prison. Following her release, Maryam’s life mission has become assisting ex-offenders transition back into society with dignity. She is the owner of SisterHearts Thrift Store, which is focused on emotional rehabilitation and economic development for ex-offenders.

Mitch

Mitch

After losing his 9-year old son to a two-year battle with a recurring malignant brain tumor, Mitch turned to the written word, composing letters and poems to his son to help him cope with his grief. Mitch subsequently published the writings in a book, Letters to My Son, which led him to begin lecturing on the grief process and leading workshops on surviving the loss of a loved one. As a trained hospice volunteer, Mitch has helped many bereaved families through the dying process. He has dedicated his life to helping those who are trying to navigate the uncharted territory of death, dying and the bereavement process.

Sharon

Sharon

Sharon lost her son Malek when he was shot in an attempted robbery after exiting a Metro bus less than one week before his 16th birthday. Sharon said her son – a sophomore at Ballou – enjoyed science and math and dreamed of becoming a physician or social worker. “He wanted to help kids who were going through rough times,” she said. After Malek’s death, Sharon emerged as a public voice against gun violence, attending vigils and rallies and befriending others whose children were lost to gun violence. She is now building a foundation in his memory.

Tonya

Tonya

Tonya’s heartbreak began when she learned her 5-month-old daughter, Kayla, had suffered an injury at daycare. Two days later, she made the most difficult decision of her life: to remove Kayla from life support. In the years since her loss, Tonya has embraced the opportunity to parent again, one child through adoption and another through birth. She continues to honor Kayla’s memory through an organization she birthed nearly 10 years ago called Kayla’s Village, which provides seminars and support to parents and social service professionals. Tonya also has documented her journey through her book, Mommie’s Bright Sunshine.

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Terms & Conditions

The mission of North Star is to facilitate one-on-one connections between individuals struggling with grief process after losing a child. EVERMORE offers the North Star Program (“Program”) to help individuals who are bereaved. In the Terms, we sometimes use “we,” “us” and “our” to refer to the Program; “Outreach Parent” to refer to each of the participants seeking connection in the Program; and “Contact Parent” to refer to each of the volunteers who offer to connect with “Outreach Parents” in the Program.

We also refer to the Outreach Parent and Contact Parent who are connected in the Program as “partners,” “parents,” “you,” and “your.” The term “personal information” means (1) information that can be used to determine, distinguish, or trace an individual‘s identity, such as name, e-mail address, address, phone number, age, and (2) any other information that is linked or linkable to an individual, such as medical and employment information.

Your Commitments and Rights

You agree to abide by the Terms and our Privacy Policy while participating in the Program. You understand that if you violate the Terms or our Privacy Policy, EVERMORE has the right to terminate your participation in the Program.

You agree to pay your own expenses of participating in the Program.

You have the right to close your relationship with any Parent, or cancel your participation in the Program at any time. If you choose to close your participation in the Program, please notify us at info@live-evermore.org.

As a Contact Parent, you are acting as an uncompensated volunteer. You are not an employee, independent contractor, or agent of EVERMORE when you participate in the Program, and you have no authority to act on behalf of EVERMORE.

You agree to the Limitation of Liability below, which applies to your participation in the Program.

You acknowledge that we may update the Terms at any time by posting them on the EVERMORE website. By continuing to participate in the Program after the Terms are updated, you agree to the updated Terms.

Privacy and Confidentiality: You agree to protect the privacy, confidentiality, and security of personal information regarding any Parent engaged in the Program, and the Program, as provided in the Terms and Privacy Policy. These privacy, confidentiality, and security obligations will survive termination of your participation in the Program.

All personal information that you receive from any Parent engaged in the program must be used in accordance with our Terms and Privacy Policy. You agree to keep all personal information about Parents confidential, including the personal information that you receive from us regarding any Parent or Family. Personal information regarding Parents must not be disclosed by you to other Program Parents, EVERMORE staff, or any third party, or used by you for any purpose other than to participate in the Program, without your partner’s express written permission. Parents may decide to share personal information with one another beyond what they provide to us. They do so at their own discretion and risk and not as our agents. We do not collect or maintain information that Parents share with each other while participating in the Program.

You must keep any paper or electronic information that includes personal information regarding your Program partner in a safe and secure place, and take reasonable steps to protect it from unauthorized access, use, or disclosure.

You agree not to use the Program, EVERMORE’s website, social media, or personal information regarding a Parent or Family to harass, violate the privacy, or harm or threaten to harm any Parent or EVERMORE in any way.

Our Commitments and Rights

We reserve the right to refuse to accept Parent applicants for any reason, including if we have a reasonable basis to believe that an applicant is not a bereaved parent or has provided incomplete or inaccurate information. If you violate the Terms or our Privacy Policy, we have the right to terminate your participation in the Program.

If we accept your participation and a Contact Parent, of your selection, is unavailable, we will use the personal information you provided in your entrance form, and personal information obtained from other Parents to attempt to pair you with another Parent. We will use reasonable efforts to pair every Parent. However, we cannot guarantee that we will be able to do so, or how quickly one can be available to you. In some cases we may be unable to find an appropriate Parent.

We may update the Terms at any time by posting them on the EVERMORE website. By continuing to participate in the Program after the Terms are updated, you agree to the updated Terms.

Privacy and Confidentiality: We will maintain and protect the confidentiality, privacy, and security of the personal information you provide us in your entrance form and as part of the Program, and safeguard the information from unauthorized use, access, or disclosure as provided in the Terms and our Privacy Policy and as required by applicable laws. We will only use and maintain personal information you provide us in your application to pair you with a Parent (in the event a Parent is undecided on a Contact Parent), and provide you with our other Program-related services such as local events, webinars, surveys, newsletters, and information.

When we help a Parent connect so they can participate in our Program, we provide each of them the personal contact information about the other that we collected from their entrance forms for the Program. Before doing so, we require that both the Outreach Parent and Contact Parent accept and agree to abide by the Terms and our Privacy Policy.

We may disclose your personal information, if we deem it necessary in order to comply with a legal obligation, to enforce these Terms, or to protect our rights or the rights of other parties such as Program participants.

These privacy, confidentiality, and security obligations will survive termination of your participation in the Program or EVERMORE services.

Disclaimers

The Program and our Services are provided “as is.” We do not make any specific promises or warranties about the value or benefits of the Program, or the conduct of your Outreach Parent or Contact Parent or other Program participants except as stated in these Terms. If you are not satisfied with the Program, your sole remedy is to terminate your participation in the Program.

There are always potential risks when you are meeting new people. You are encouraged to consider and take reasonable precautions in your interactions and meetings with your Parent.

Any information provided by us, our employees and agents, or any Parent or other Program participant is not intended to be, and should never be considered medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, or legal advice. You should always obtain medical advice, diagnosis, and treatment from qualified health care professionals. Equally, you should always obtain legal advice from a qualified legal professional.

Limitation of Liability

While we seek to attract inspiring volunteers, we undertake no responsibility for the quality or conduct of your Parent or other Program participants with whom you may interact. EVERMORE relies on participants in the Program to agree to these terms of participation and participate in good faith. There is always the possibility that a Program participant will act out or injure another participant, whether emotionally, spiritually, financially or physically. You agree to bear all risks associated with your relationships with and information provided to or received from your Parent or other Program participants.

EVERMORE does not monitor or take responsibility for the actions or behavior of participants in the Program. All participants are independent actors, and not agents or employees of EVERMORE. EVERMORE is not liable for any injury you may incur from other participants as a result of your participation in the program.

Program parents independently make the final decision to reach out to a parent seeking advice. EVERMORE is not responsible for any actions taken by Program parents once communication among parents begins. All participants are independent actors, and not agents or employees of EVERMORE. EVERMORE is not liable for any injury you may incur from other participants as a result of your participation in the program.

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