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Protecting students abroad

  Two grieving mothers seek efforts to bring transparency, safety to college abroad programs Ros Thackurdeen remembers the hype as she sat through a college study abroad session with her youngest son Ravi at Swarthmore University. “It was pretty exciting,” Thackurdeen said. “I wanted to go on it. You had students who talked about their…



Grief, it doesn’t change in size…

“Your life is a box, and this grief is a box inside that box, and it’s occupying a large portion of it. And as life continues, the bigger box gets bigger and that grief, it doesn’t change in size. It’s still there, but there’s just more room in your life, other aspects of it.” —…



When a child dies… what happens next makes all the difference.

  Mulheron left her career to immerse herself in the science surrounding the fallout of losing a child at any age or cause. She then started Evermore — a nonprofit to change the national response when a child dies. Evermore organization will tackle why and how More. Bereaved. Families. Every day, news coverage reports the death of sons…



When I saw her…

“Why is a chaplain here?’ She just rolled off the bed. Then when I saw the first doctor before I was able to see Kayla, she said, ‘If she survives,’ and I didn’t hear anything after that.” — Tonya



What if…

“What if I would have done this? Then they would still be alive today.” — Jackie



We lost you

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It has been over five years since we lost you. When we found out we were having twins, we were so excited, overwhelmed and scared. From one of the very first ultrasounds, I was concerned that you were measuring smaller. The doctors tried to reassure me appointment after appointment and I tried to believe them…



Every single day was a fight…

“We wanted to make sure that the burden of knowing what he had was on mom and dad. So, he never ever knew what he was facing, at least, we believe he never knew the uphill battle that he was facing.” — Gavin



Choosing to try

Cynthia with Sarah-Grace. Grief teaches a mother lessons she never wanted to learn My husband Brad came home to tell me what he had learned minutes earlier. Sarah is gone… Our Sarah-Grace. Our beautiful 24-year-old daughter. Dead. With three words and within mere seconds, I was shattered, gutted, disoriented. Any word that implies destruction, pain…



Hold My Hand

“He was one of the initial responders and he just kept holding my hand. He was like, ‘Miss Hawkins, I’ve been in Iraq. Your son, he’s going to be okay.’” — Judy



That one minute…

“It’s happened four times for me now. It’s been a long time, when I woke up in that morning going, “I have to get the kids up from school.” Oh…she’s not there. That’s only happened four times but you know what, as bad as the realization is, that one minute that she’s still there is…



Dr. Mom Gives You A Life to Live

Kevin, fierce protector of his nine siblings and Nancy and Ray’s son. A Bereaved Mother’s Day Nancy is the unflappable mother of ten and leads her large family with grace, instilling a deep love for life in all her children. As a psychotherapist who specializes in addiction and trauma, she has a soft spot for people…



He just kept holding my hand…

“He was one of the initial responders and he just kept holding my hand. He was like, ‘Miss Hawkins, I’ve been in Iraq. Your son, he’s going to be okay.’” — Judy



Son’s death launches father’s re-education into the dangers of teen driving

After his son Reid died in a car crash, Tim Hollister helped transform Connecticut’s teen driving laws. The provisions include earlier curfews, no electronic devices, a two-hour teen driving safety course for both teens and their parents and restrictions on who can ride with young drivers. Evermore is dedicating this Father’s Day week to bereaved…



Once More We Saw Stars

  In a new memoir, Once More We Saw Stars, father Jayson Greene vividly recounts the raw feelings after his two-year-old daughter Greta died and his continuous journey through grief. Evermore is dedicating this Father’s Day week to bereaved dads who will always be fathers. A stunning accident claimed the life of two-year-old Greta Greene…



Immediately thrown

“Those early days were just a fog of confusion, uncertainty, a little bit of anger and just trying to wrap your head around a new reality…It was something that you could never prepare yourself for.” — Gavin



“He Wants Me to Salute Him Back”

Bryan Burgess was killed in action during a 2011 deployment to Afghanistan just 16 days before he was scheduled to return home — a few weeks shy of his 30th birthday. Telling and re-telling the story of his son’s life and sacrifice pulled Terry Burgess from deep depression In the early morning hours before Terry Burgess learned…



The pain will always be, always be there…

“The pain will always be, always be there. It will never go away. However, as each day passes, you will learn how to, not deal with it, but it’ll become a little easier to handle. The pain will not be as sharp as it might be right now but as each day goes along, you’ll…



Am I still a father?

June 2013, during recovery from what was supposed to be a routine heart catheterization to assess his heart condition, Ron Kelly’s son’s heart failed. Doctors weren’t able to revive 16-year-old Jon. Today Ron helps other grieving fathers, particularly those in the workplace. After struggling with identity after his son’s death, Ron Kelly helps other men mourn…



You can’t stay in the dark place.

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I don’t even know where to begin. In 1987, when I was 20, I was in a bad car accident. My 3-year-old daughter, who was with me, was shaken up and had two black eyes, but otherwise seemed all right. Someone called my parents and my mom took me to the hospital. I was 38…



Two dads, one mission: Better bereavement leave

  Kelly Farley and Barry Kluger are the dads behind the Parental Bereavement Act. Evermore is dedicating this Father’s Day week to bereaved dads who will always be fathers.   Kelly Farley and Barry Kluger met because of a horrible coincidence: They knew what it was like to mourn a child. For Kluger, it was…



How can I smile…

“I didn’t smile for a long time. I felt so guilty like how can I smile when my child’s not here? What is there to smile about? Why should I be happy? I just felt like I didn’t deserve to even smile, really even to live. Because as a parent you’re supposed to protect your…



A Legacy of Protecting Others

  Bryan Burgess (center) was killed in action during his final 2011 deployment to Afghanistan just 16 days before he was scheduled to return home — a few weeks shy of his 30th birthday. His parents Terry and Beth created Gold Star Parents retreat and network in his honor. Grieving Bryan, their son who gave all, Texas parents Terry…



What’s Your HR Benefit? Deana’s Was One Week Leave Per Child

Most Employers Grant Only Three Days Of Paid Leave After A Child Dies There are times in which an entire life can change in a moment. It may come in the form of an anxiously anticipated milestone: graduation, marriage, or the birth of a child. But there are darker, unimaginable tragedies we often refuse to…



Immediately thrown into a state of shock…

“Those early days were just a fog of confusion, uncertainty, a little bit of anger and just trying to wrap your head around a new reality…It was something that you could never prepare yourself for.” — Gavin



Is Your Child Safe? Betsy Wants To Know

Federal Child Safety Protection Laws Are Not Enforced Equally By States Serving her country was the first thing Betsy Cummings would do following graduation. Leaving her small hometown of Culpeper, Virginia, she was off to see the world, meet her future husband, and eventually welcome her young son, Dylan, into the world. Following maternity leave,…



Why would you allow this?

“I never in a million years imagined myself telling my baby to let go. This is the baby that I fought to keep in so she wouldn’t be born early, but…” — Kimmie



“Don’t Lean Into The Brokeness”

Nearly three years ago the nation’s attention was gripped by the shooting death of Michael Brown, a young black man who was shot by Darren Wilson, a white police officer. As unrest unfolded in Ferguson, larger questions about racial inequities and institutional racism began making headlines. Today, police shootings continue to be scrutinized, but racial…



I would do anything…

“The disbelief always felt like a bad dream. I was either in a coma somewhere or I was in a deep sleep and this was such a realistic dream. And, I thought and I hoped that one day I was going to wake up and it wasn’t not going to be real at all.” —…



This is not going to be a 24-hour day…

“I get up and I’m like, ‘Today I’m going to do this.’ Momo couldn’t stay here for me, but I’m doing my best to walk it out in a way that maybe a young person that I talk to or they see me smiling even if I’m crying and just keep going and maybe it’ll…



Even the Forgotten Lose Children

Countless experiences shape the trajectory of a human life, but for Maryam Henderson-Uloho the convergence of two specific and devastating events ultimately changed her course: a 25-year prison sentence and the death of her son, Augustine. Maryam was serving her sentence at St. Gabriel’s Louisiana Correctional Institution for Women when she received the news that…



Always that hope…

“That’s when we knew. He didn’t have to say anything. That was how the news was broken.” — Gavin



Calmness in the Storm…

There is a hole that has been ripped into my heart, my womb, my core, in my entire being, that will never heal. You can’t seal that. You can’t duplicate it, can’t replace it, can’t imitate it; it’s gone. The one little person that I did everything for, made every choice and decision for, did…



For Some Bereaved Parents, Grief is Compounded by Identity Theft

Matt and Roya Pilcher were among the millions of Americans who slogged dutifully through the process of filing their taxes in 2011. But that year they joined countless other bereaved parents in experiencing pain far beyond the inconvenience of paperwork. Not only had they lost their daughter Ava; the IRS subsequently informed them their claim…



Focus on the positive…

“I’d like to think that I’ve become a better person, more compassionate because of her…I focus on the positive memories. That’s what keeps me going.” — Gale



It Changes You

“I’m not the same as I used to be. I don’t think I ever will be. If that doesn’t change how I am with Chris I mean I think it has to change how I am with Chris because I’m different.” — Gina



It’s okay…

“Don’t ever allow what other people say or think about your pain to keep you from allowing yourself to feel it. Because the only way you’re going to get through this is to feel it and process it. It’ll get better. You’ll always miss your baby. I’ll always miss my baby, but I do have…



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